Like it or not, we
often judge ourselves by other people's reactions to us. If
others seem to like us, then we feel good about ourselves. If
others don't seem to like us, then we may feel bad about
ourselves. Not always, but much of the time.
Given this
principle of reciprocal liking, we now have a logical
explanation to explain the attractiveness effects described
above.
When you look at a girl you're attracted to,
your pupils dilate. Subconsciously, she notices your dilated
pupils and concludes that you like her and are attracted to
her. Since people who like her give her an ego boost and make
her feel good about herself, she becomes more attracted to you
than she might be otherwise. Does this make sense?
So
remember...
"If you want someone to like you, then like
them."
This simple principle has been known for ages.
Yet it's amazing how few people really understand it or
practice it. And how dearly this lack of understanding costs
them.
Now that we understand the three points discussed
above, the question becomes, "How can we use this information
to enrich our lives by making ourselves more attractive to
women?"
I'll go over a few possible scenarios, but use
your imagination. There are dozens of ways to use the
knowledge you now possess to add love, romance, and excitement
to your life.
Ever wonder why a candlelit dinner with
wine is considered so romantic? Think about it. The dim light
dilates the pupils of both individuals, making them both more
attractive to one another than they usually are (not to
mention hiding minor physical flaws). And the alcohol in the
wine accentuates the pupil dilation even more.
Yes,
alcohol dilates the pupils. It also promotes relaxation and
reduces inhibitions. It's definitely your friend on a date.
But be careful not to abuse the alcohol. A little is romantic.
A lot becomes unpredictable and can wind up ruining the
evening.
Another tip you may find helpful: remember to
gaze into the eyes of that beautiful lady you're interested
in. You're attracted to her. Your pupils dilate. She
subconsciously recognizes your attraction. She likes those
wise individuals who like her. She feels good. She starts to
like you.
And all you've done is look into her
beautiful eyes. You haven't really said or "risked" anything.
Seems pretty simple doesn't it?
(Don't be surprised if
she tells her girlfriends "what beautiful eyes" you
have.)
I know. I know. You're shy. You usually go to
extremes in order to avoid eye contact... especially with
women you're attracted to. You look down. You look away. You
look anywhere but into "the eyes."
You'd rather die
than let her know you're attracted to her. You want her to be
attracted to you first. Once you're sure she's attracted to
you, then maybe you'll let on a little that you're attracted
to her as well.
BIG MISTAKE!
Remember, if you
want someone to like you, like them. And let them know you
like them. Look into her eyes and smile. Force yourself to...
just for a couple seconds every now and then.
I'm not
talking about staring into her eyes until the sweat starts
popping from her brow. Staring will simply make her feel
uncomfortable.
Just add a little casual eye contact
into your conversations with her. And smile. Remember, she
will come to like you BECAUSE you like
her.
The human eye is the organ which
gives us the sense of sight, allowing us to learn more about
the surrounding world than we do with any of the other four
senses. We use our eyes in almost every activity we
perform, whether reading, working, watching television,
writing a letter, driving a car, and in countless other ways.
Most people probably would agree that sight is the sense
they value more than all the rest.
The eye allows us to
see and interpret the shapes, colors, and dimensions of
objects in the world by processing the light they reflect or
emit. The eye is able to see in bright light or in dim
light, but it cannot see objects when light is
absent.
Light from an object (such as a tree) enters
the eye first through the clear cornea and then through the
pupil, the circular aperture (opening) in the iris.
Next, the light is converged by the crystalline lens to
a nodal point immediately behind the lens; at that point, the
image becomes inverted. The light progresses through the
gelatinous vitreous humor and, ideally, back to a clear focus
on the retina, the central area of which is the macula.
(If the eye is considered to be a type of camera, the
retina is equivalent to the film inside the camera.) In
the retina, light impulses are changed into electrical signals
and then sent along the optic nerve and back to the occipital
(posterior) lobe of the brain, which interprets these
electrical signals as visual images. Actually, then, we
do not “see” with our eyes but, rather, with our brains; our
eyes merely assist with the process.
If the incoming
light from a far away object focuses before it gets to the
back of the eye, that eye’s refractive error is called
“myopia” (nearsightedness). If incoming light from
something far away has not focused by the time it reaches the
back of the eye, that eye’s refractive error is “hyperopia”
(farsightedness).
In the case of “astigmatism,” one or
more surfaces of the cornea or lens (the eye structures which
focus incoming light) are not spherical (shaped like the side
of a basketball) but, rather, are cylindrical or toric (shaped
more like the side of a football). As a result, there is
no distinct point of focus inside the eye but, rather, a
smeared or spread-out focus. Astigmatism is the most
common refractive error.
After age 40, and most
noticeably after 45, the human eye is affected by presbyopia,
which results in greater difficulty maintaining a clear focus
at a near distance with an eye which sees clearly at a far
away distance (the latter being with or without the aid of
glasses or contact lenses or following a LASIK procedure).
This is due to a lessening of flexibility of the
crystalline lens, as well as to a weakening of the ciliary
muscles which control lens focusing, both attributable to the
aging process.
The average infant’s eyeball measures
approximately 19½ millimeters from front to back (axial
length) and grows to a length of about 24-25 millimeters, or
about 1 inch, in adulthood. (A ping-pong ball is about
1½ inch in diameter, which makes the average adult eyeball
about 2/3 the size of a ping-pong ball.) The eyeball is
set in a protective cone-shaped cavity in the skull called the
“orbit” or “socket.”
The orbit is surrounded by layers
of soft, fatty tissue which protect the eye and enable it to
turn easily. Three pairs of extraocular muscles regulate
the motion of each eye: the medial/external rectus muscles,
the superior/inferior rectus muscles, and the
superior/inferior oblique muscles.
Among the most
important components of the human eye are the cornea,
conjunctiva, iris, crystalline lens, vitreous humor, retina,
macula, optic
nerve.
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