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An eye can threaten like a
loaded and levelled gun, or it can insult like hissing or
kicking; or, in its altered mood, by beams of kindness, it can
make the heart dance for joy. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
The
face is the mirror of the mind, and eyes without speaking
confess the secrets of the heart. - Saint Jerome
Let's
talk a little bit about the eyes.
The eyes are quite
amazing! Very few things surpass the importance of our eyes
when engaged in social interaction... especially with those
gorgeous women we love to feast them upon.
I'm not
talking about eye contact in this article. Or the way we use
our eyes to connect and disconnect, with others. I'm talking
about the eyes themselves... specifically the pupils of your
eyes.
Three EXTREMELY IMPORTANT things to understand
right up front:
The pupils of our eyes dilate and grow
larger when we see someone we're attracted to.
Larger,
dilated pupils are seen as more attractive than smaller,
contracted pupils.
We like those who like
us.
Okay...
Whenever we see someone we like,
the pupils of our eyes dilate and grow larger. It's almost as
if our eyes are trying to see as much of this person as
possible. This is an involuntary and uncontrollable
physiological response.
Thus, you can often tell if a
woman is attracted to you by observing her pupils, and noting
whether they expand or contract (or maybe do nothing) when she
looks at you.
(Note: contracting would not be good for
you... as it likely means she not only is not attracted to
you, but actively dislikes you. Sorry about that.)
I
say, "often tell," because sometimes the environment can
interfere with the "psychological" responses of our pupils. If
you're outside on a bright sunny day, it may be difficult for
even your magnificence to dilate her pupils. Similarly, if
you're together in a dimly lit room, her pupils are probably
going to be dilated no matter how much she despises
you.
One other thing to keep in mind is her base level,
or natural pupil size. This varies somewhat from person to
person. Some people have larger pupils and some have smaller
pupils. So to effectively judge "your" effect on her, you're
going to have to keep in mind her base level and judge the
"change" when she gazes longingly (you hope) in your
direction.
Please try to be inconspicuous about this.
Do NOT tell her what you're doing. If she had any idea it
would make her very
uncomfortable.
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On the other
hand, keep in mind that if gorgeous girl you've been checking
out knows her pupil physiology, she already "knows" you're
attracted to her. She can see it in your eyes. And, short of
wearing sunglasses or avoiding all eye contact, there's not
much you can do about it.
But I wouldn't worry about
this too much. There's very little chance that your average
lady is going to understand this particular
psycho-physiological response. After all, she probably doesn't
subscribe to The Don Juan Newsletter like you do. (YOU LUCKY
DOG, YOU!)
The second thing to keep in mind is that
larger, dilated pupils are considered more physically
attractive (and more friendly) than are smaller, contracted
pupils.
For example, studies with photographs have
shown that attractiveness increases as pupil size increases.
Likewise, if the researchers altered the pupil sizes in the
photographs to make them smaller, they could decrease
the attractiveness of the individuals in the
photos.
We're talking about the SAME target photos
here. Increasing or decreasing the pupil sizes of the same
photos and noting the perceived level of attractiveness as
rated by the subjects. We're not comparing different people
with different pupil sizes and concluding that those with
larger pupils are seen as more attractive than those with
smaller pupils. Obviously, there are a lot of other variables
to consider when comparing different individuals.
Ever
heard of the Belladonna plant?
Belladonna is Italian
for "beautiful lady" and was frequently used by 16th century
women to give their eyes a sexy and dreamy look (by dilating
the pupils).
An important point to keep in mind is that
these pupil attractiveness effects operate in a "subconscious"
fashion. The people in the experiments know they like the
photos with the dilated pupils better, but they don't know
exactly why. The person just seems "more handsome" or
"prettier" or "friendlier" somehow. They do not realize the
pupils have been altered physically by the
researchers.
Thus, ideally, you would like for your
pupils to be as large as possible when gazing at women you're
attracted to (making you more attractive). And luckily, as
mentioned in the first part of this article, that is exactly
what happens. (Cool, huh?)
You see a beautiful girl.
Your pupils dilate. The large pupils cause her to see you as
more attractive than she otherwise might. Your responses are
automatic. Her responses are subconscious. Works out pretty
well doesn't it?
Keep in mind that it works the other
way as well. If a girl is attracted to you her pupils will
dilate when she's looking at you. As a result, you will see
her as being more attractive than you might otherwise think
her to be. Again, both reactions are automatic and usually
subconscious.
The third major point discussed in this
article is that we like those who like us.
We are
almost always attracted to those who are attracted to us. Why?
Could be many possible reasons for this. But probably the main
reason is because when another person likes us, it makes us
feel good about ourselves. It gives us an ego boost and
increases our self-esteem and
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